Hey guys! So this weekend was great, from the title of this blog post we attended our 2nd event of Strong Bonds 2018 in Annapolis, Maryland. Overall it was great, my hubby and I love learning different ways to express ourselves and even meeting other couples as well.
The topic of this event was “The 8 Habits of a Successful Marriage”.
There was a couple quotes that stuck with us after this event:
“What’s common knowledge isn’t always common practice.” -Stephen Covey
“When I ask you to listen to me
And you start giving advice,
You have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I asked was that you listen – Not talk or do, Just hear me.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and can get about the business of understanding what’s behind this irrational feeling.
And when that’s clear, the answers are obvious and I don’t need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense, when we understand what’s behind them.
So please listen and just hear me. And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn, and I’ll listen to you.” –Ralph Roughton, MD
Like I mentioned in a previous blog post Strong Bonds 2018 Hubby and I recommend an event like this to all newly and longtime marriage couples. The reason we encourage couples to attend an event like this is because you will see a different aspects within your marriage/spouse – whether there is a problem or something positive that you are doing. An event like this IS NOT for marriages that ONLY has problems, it is showing each other that you are willing to step out of your comfort zone to share or just listen to advice. It is such a fun way to stay connected as husband and wife. Hubby and I are very thankful that the military provides events like this and we will continue to attend Strong Bonds throughout our marriage.
Let me know what events you attended with your spouse, and how it went. I would love to hear more feedback on different military/non-military events like Strong Bonds. Me ke aloha -SIMPLY SHANA